My friend has been dumped by the love of her life………

So what can she do?  And as her friends what do we do?  First we call in all her mates for lots of tea (or vodka, mainly vodka) and sympathy. Maybe she’ll even ask for advice, knowing of course she’s not going to take it.

 What she really needs to do is to be able to slag off the ex and his co-conspirators: his mates, girlfriends, illicit affairs, mother, father, everyone associated with him, that’s where we the mates come in to help, we MUST stay silent while she does this. She has the overwhelming need to conjure up every name and curses known to man and with great venom hurl them at her betrayer. To take every idea of revenge she can come up with out on his car, clothes, home etc. 

A friend of mine once went to her ex-lover’s flat following their break-up, knowing he would be away for a few days. She soaked his carpets with water and then sprinkled mustard and cress seeds throughout the rooms. Finally, she turned the heating on full and left the flat to turn into a botanical garden. We can safely say HE felt her pain!

Next its the make-over phase, she’ll lose some weight, dye her hair, change her wardrobe… be seen drop dead gorgeous everywhere he goes.  It’s classic behaviour, ensure he will regret his decision and feel unbearable hurt, needless to say he won’t be feeling her pain and it is possible he will report her as a stalker! this option rarely works.

 When the relationship was good, it was exquisite. Now it’s over it is the hardest pain to suffer. Therefore you do whatever it takes to help her on to the road of recovery.

 We all have very different ways to survive the loss of a great love and when people tell you, ‘it will get easier’, they may well be right, but the temptation to slap them will be insurmountable.

 You know that her heart will heal and that she will love and trust again…. She did last week and the week before and the one before that!

 If you are the friend of the ‘dumped’ in question, never ever criticize the ‘former boyfriend’ you may find forgiveness comes easily to those in love, and now it’s you that has been dumped!

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